THE SHIFT STARTS WITHIN

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LET'S CHAT ALL THINGS NERVOUS SYSTEM

Understanding what’s happening within your body, learning to recognize what it needs, and what I’ve created to help you feel more supported through it all.

The nervous system has become one of those things I can’t unlearn about.

The more I’ve learned about my body, my stress, my habits and the way I move through everyday life, the more I’ve realized how much starts here.

And I think for a long time, I assumed stress was just… stress. You feel overwhelmed, you push through it, you get to the other side and move on. But our bodies are paying attention to so much more than we realize.

Your nervous system is constantly taking in information and deciding: Am I safe? Do I need to be on alert? Can I rest here?

And when your body spends a lot of time in that go-go-go, always-on state, it can start communicating with you in ways that are really easy to brush off.

YOUR BODY IS ALWAYS TALKING TO YOU

This is something I’ve had to learn for myself: our bodies give us signals.

Sometimes we’re so used to pushing through, being productive, taking care of everyone else and moving onto the next thing that we don’t actually stop long enough to listen.

And no, I don’t think the goal is to analyze every little thing your body does or somehow live a completely stress-free life. That’s not realistic.

For me, it’s been more about learning to recognize when my body is asking for support – and having tools that help me respond instead of continuing to push through it.

THE NERVOUS SYSTEM + LYMPHATIC SYSTEM CONNECTION

This has been another really interesting piece for me.

Our bodies aren’t made up of a bunch of completely separate systems doing their own thing. They’re connected. And when we start supporting one area, it can have a ripple effect on how we feel overall.

Your lymphatic system plays an important role in fluid balance and immune function, and unlike your circulatory system, it doesn’t have a heart pumping things along. Movement, breathing and muscle contractions all help lymph move throughout the body.

This is one of the reasons I’ve become so intentional about simple practices that support both my body and nervous system.

Things like walking, deep breathing, getting outside, gentle movement, creating slower transitions in my day and giving myself actual moments to come down from the constant stimulation.

Nothing groundbreaking. Nothing that needs to become another 47-step wellness routine.

Just small things that tell my body, hey, you don’t have to be “on” every second of the day.

THATS WHERE 'WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME' COMES IN...

And really, this is a huge part of why I created What Broke Me, Built Me.

If you haven’t heard me talk about it yet, What Broke Me, Built Me is a course I am launching (very soon)  all about understanding your nervous system, recognizing the patterns that keep you stuck in survival mode, and building simple habits + routines that help you feel more supported in your everyday life.

Because so much of what I’m sharing inside this course came from things I had to learn myself.

There were seasons where I was living in survival mode without necessarily realizing that’s what it was. I could keep going. I could get things done. I could show up.

But being able to function and actually feeling supported in your body are two very different things.

The course is about taking what I’ve learned through those seasons and turning it into something practical that you can actually bring into your own life – from understanding your nervous system to looking at your routines, habits and the little things you do every day.

This isn’t about creating a “perfect” routine or giving you another list of things you should be doing.

It’s about understanding yourself better, noticing what your body is telling you, and building habits that actually support the life you’re living.

Because sometimes the things that break us open end up teaching us the most about what we need.

And for me, that’s exactly where so much of this began.

AN EXCITING UDPATE FROM THE RANCH

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Okay, enough nervous system talk for a minute because we have some ranch updates to get into – and somehow there is always something going on around here. 

THE THREE AMIGOS

If you’ve been following along, you know it all started with Lil Wayne. Then came Popeye, our donkey, and right now we also have Ella, my brother’s horse who is essentially vacationing with us before heading back to his home.

And the dynamics between these three have been… a journey.

When Ella and Wayne first met, they fought like crazy. Ella was NOT interested in being Wayne’s bestie, and things actually got bad enough that she kicked him multiple times and left him with a pretty good wound. We ended up having to separate them for a while because clearly, friendship was not on the agenda.

Fast-forward to now and somehow these two have the sweetest relationship. Like… who would have thought?!

And I honestly think we have Popeye to thank for some of it.

When Popeye joined the crew, he wasn’t exactly intimidated by Ella’s moods.  He would test her and push her buttons in a way Wayne never really did, and over time it almost seemed like Ella just learned to… chill.

Now the three of them are basically the three amigos, and watching their little dynamic together has been one of my favourite parts of having them around.

One of the funniest things about them is Wayne’s attachment to Ella. He LOVES her. If she goes somewhere, there’s a pretty good chance Wayne would also like to be there. Considering where those two started, it makes their friendship that much sweeter.

AND THEN THERES THE TRAILER SAGA...

And with our little crew growing, naturally came the next conversation: trailers. And let me tell you, I have learned A LOT. 

The more time we’ve spent around the horses and figuring out what we actually need, the more I’ve realized that a trailer is definitely one of those things I don’t want to compromise on. Safety, quality and having something that’s built to last matter so much to me.

Which brings me to HART Trailers.

If you know, you know. Their quality is honestly unmatched, and the more I’ve learned about their trailers, the more I understand why they have the reputation they do. When you’re hauling animals you love, having something you can genuinely trust and feel confident pulling down the road is a pretty big deal.

So yes, I have officially become someone who researches trailers, notices trailer brands and gets excited about trailer features.  Ranch life has changed me.

The trailer search has definitely been a process, but it’s also been really fun figuring out what makes sense for us and this little crew we somehow keep adding to.

I’ll keep you posted on where the trailer saga takes us next…

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THE UNDER-EYE EDIT

MY OFFICAL UNDER-EYE STARTER KIT

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If there’s one area we’re all trying to figure out, it’s the under-eyes. Fine lines, puffiness, dark circles, dryness, concealer that suddenly decides to settle into every. single. line. – there’s a lot going on in one tiny area.

And trust me, I’ve tried A LOT.

Over the years, I’ve tested products, swapped techniques and figured out what actually makes a difference for me. So instead of giving you another list of things to try, I’m giving you my Tried + True Under-Eye Edit – the skincare, tools + makeup products that have earned a permanent spot in my routine.

No gatekeeping. Let’s get into the good stuff. 

BYAVA FACE + SCALP MASSAGE SCULPTER

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Now you may be wondering what a massager is doing in my under-eye routine.. but hear me out…

This one goes beyond the under-eyes – and that’s exactly why I love it. I use the larger end to massage my scalp + neck, then flip it over and use the rounded end on my face.

We hold SO much tension in our jaw, temples, brow, forehead and neck, and that tension can show up in the way our face looks and feels. Taking the time to massage these areas helps me release some of that built-up tension while giving my skin (and honestly, my whole body) a little love.

JOCE TIP: Don’t just focus on where you see the lines. Work into the scalp, jaw, neck and down toward the clavicle too.

OLVIEDA F09 ANTI-WRINKLE EYE CREAM

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This baby is my go-to and one I consistently come back to. The Oliveda F09 Anti-Wrinkle Eye Cream gives that delicate under-eye area the hydration it needs while helping it feel smoother, tighter + refreshed.

I’m picky about what I use around my eyes, and I love the ingredient lineup in this one. The scent is light, it doesn’t feel heavy, and it feels SO good around the eyes. It’s such an easy everyday step, whether I’m wearing makeup or keeping things simple.

JOCE TIP: Give your eye cream a few minutes to settle into the skin before going in with your next under-eye step – especially if you’re following it with silicone patches or makeup.

MINTIER COLLAGEN LIFT & HYDRATE FACE TAPE

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You’ve heard me talk about these before because they have become a nighttime staple for me. After I’ve finished my skincare and let it sit for 5 minutes, I apply the tape along the lines around my eyes and anywhere I’m noticing fine lines.

Before applying, I actually stretch and relax my face so I’m not placing the tape over an already-created crease. I especially love these at night because if you’re a side or face sleeper like me, you know how easily those sleep lines can show up.

JOCE TIP: Apply these after your skincare and smooth out the area before placing them.

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DUBOSE REUSABLE SILICON EYE PATCHES

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These are one of those products I own and think, why am I not using these every single day?! Unlike a traditional eye mask, there’s no product built into them – you apply your own skincare first, let it settle for a minute, then place the silicone patches over top.

I leave them on for at least 10 minutes, but if I’m puttering around the house, I’ll leave them on even longer. They’re reusable too, so when they start losing their stick, simply rinse them with water and pat dry.

JOCE TIP: These are a daytime skincare step for me. At night, I reach for my Mintier face tape instead.

SEINT SPOT & EN POINTE BRUSH

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When it comes to color correcting, the brush you use makes SUCH a difference. These two are both from SEINT and give me the precision I need to put color exactly where I want it – because my rule is to never use a brush bigger than the area I’m trying to correct.

The Spot Brush is the one I recommend most. It’s double-ended with two different sizes, so whether you’re correcting under the eyes or working on a smaller area, you have options without over-applying product.

The En Point Brush is for those tiny, precise areas where I need even more control. I also love using one end for adding pigment, like contour or bronzer, and keeping the other for my yellow + orange correcting shades.

JOCE TIP: Start small + stay precise. Color correcting isn’t about adding more makeup — it’s about putting the right color in the right place.

SEINT COLOR CORRECTORS (Y01 & 03)

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If you’ve heard me talk about color theory, you know how much of a difference the right corrector can make – especially under the eyes. These two are both from SEINT, and Y01 + 03 tend to be two of the shades I reach for most.

Y01 is my go-to when I’m seeing more purple + blue tones, especially underneath the eyes or within a blemish. Instead of piling concealer on top, that yellow helps neutralize the unwanted color first.

03 comes in when the pigmentation is deeper — think melasma, hyperpigmentation, sunspots or more prominent blue colouring underneath the eyes. It gives me that stronger correction exactly where I need it.

JOCE TIP: Color correction is definitely not one-size-fits-all. If you’re dealing with pigmentation and aren’t sure which shade you need, I always recommend getting a custom color match rather than guessing.

Click this for a custom color match 

SIGMA CREAM CORRECTOR DUO

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Yes, I have two different types of color correctors in this edit – because I use them completely differently.

Sigma’s formula is softer and creamier, so I love putting a little on my fingertip and pressing it underneath my eyes to brighten and correct. Seint gives me more control for precise placement, whereas Sigma is beautiful when I want that softer, diffused correction.

That’s why you’ll find both in my makeup bag: SIGMA for brightening + SEINT when I want to pinpoint exactly where the correction goes.

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Now for what you really came for... THE GIVEAWAY

Word on the street is that loyal email subscribers get to enter into a GIVEAWAY EVERY WEEK… so here’s all you need to do!

Leave me a comment telling me a ‘must-have step in your morning routine’ – that’s it!

YOUR SAVINGS HUB THIS LABOR DAY

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Okay, there are a LOT of Labor Day sales happening right now, and I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the time (or patience ) to sort through all of them.

So I did a little of the work for you.

I pulled together some of the beauty, wellness, and self-care deals I’m most excited about right now — including a few products I already use and genuinely love, along with some things I’ve had my eye on.

These aren’t just random sales I found on the internet. These are brands and products I feel good about sharing with you, and I’m especially excited about a few of the deals because the savings are actually worth talking about.

So grab your coffee—or your favorite drink of choice —and let’s get into the Labor Day deals worth knowing about before they disappear.

Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, which means I may earn a small commission if you shop through them, at no additional cost to you. Thank you so much for supporting me and allowing me to keep sharing my favorite finds with you!

ADDING THIS TO MY OWN CART

Results of using Olive Tree People for years

If you’ve been curious about Olive Tree People, this weekend is a pretty great time to try it — or stock up on the things you already love.

Their Labor Day promotion is 35% off when you spend $159 USD (or the equivalent of $219 CAD / €159). So if you’ve had a few OTP favorites sitting on your wishlist, you can bundle them together and save.

I especially love that OTP makes everyday body care feel a little more special. It’s one of those brands where even the basics can feel like a little treat, and I think it’s a fun one to explore if you’re looking for something new.

The fine print: the Olive Rose BRUSH & I56, Starter Sets, and Enrollment Kits are excluded from the promotion.

Happy shopping — and if you try something new, tell me what you get!

SAVE $260 ON MY SECRET WEAPON

I bought my LUMEBOX with my own money years ago – and after actually using it, testing it, and finding the ways it fits into my life, it has become one of those things I genuinely don’t want to be without.

It comes with me on every. single. trip.

Why? Travel can throw off all the cues my body is used to. If I’m in California, for example, 8 AM at home is 6 AM there – and it can still be dark when my body is ready to start the day. Having my LUMEBOX with me gives me a consistent light-based ritual even when my environment and schedule have changed.

But travel is only one way I use it. At this point, I reach for it for SO many things:

  • Morning + travel routines when my usual light cues are different
  • My nighttime wind-down when I’m trying to step away from bright lights and screens
  • Alongside meditation to set the tone and help me slow things down
  • Beside my ear as part of the routine I use when I’m focusing on calming and nervous-system support
  • Over my gut when my stomach feels off or when nervousness shows up there
  • On different areas of my body when something feels sore, achy, or just off
  • Anytime I need a little mood reset and want to create a calmer environment

I’m never going to tell you there’s one magic thing that fixes everything – that’s not how our bodies work. But my LUMEBOX has become one of those tools I reach for again and again because it’s simple, it fits into my life, and I genuinely notice the difference in how I feel when I use it.

SHOP LUMEBOX RED LIGHT

USE CODE JOCELYNM TO SAVE $260 AT CHECKOUT.

If you’ve been thinking about getting a LUMEBOX of your own, I’d be so grateful if you chose to shop through my link. It directly supports me, my family, and the work I get to share with you here – and truly, that means more to me than you know.

MY FAV SET IS ON SALE NOW

Okay, this one is an easy one for me to share because I actually put this set together myself. 

My Sigma FAVSET is a curated collection of some of the products I personally love and reach for, and it’s 20% off right now.

Brushes included in the collection:

    • E35 — my fluffy blending brush
    • E27 — perfect for building depth
    • E21 — my favorite for lining the eyes

If you’ve ever asked me which Sigma products I actually recommend, this is a pretty good place to start because I’ve already done the picking for you.

And if you want to browse beyond the set, I also have a full page of my Sigma favorites with other products I love.

AND THEN THERE'S THE PRIMER...

I knew I wanted the Sigma eyeshadow primer in this bundle because it’s genuinely the best one I’ve used –  and trust me, I’ve tried a LOT.

I chose this very specific shade for a reason. That little hint of pink can help visually neutralize the look of discoloration and veins, giving you a more even-looking base before you ever pick up your shadow. I’ll even use a little under the eyes when I want some extra color correction.

Then it gives your shadow a smooth base and helps everything stay in place.

IF YOU'VE EVER ASKED ME WHAT I USE TO WHITEN MY TEETH...

This is it! I genuinely love my Banana White teeth whitener, and it’s one of those products that has earned a permanent spot in my routine.

So when I saw they were running a Labor Day deal, I had to share it with you. The Compact Pro Whitening Kit is $69 instead of $99, AND you get a FREE teeth-whitening foam with your $50+ purchase.

Basically, it’s $30 off my favorite whitening kit + a freebie when you use CODE JOCELYN!

REFRESH YOUR SMILE TODAY

If you’ve been wanting to try Banana White, I would absolutely take advantage of this one. The offer ends September 7!

AN INSIDE LOOK AT MY NEW COURSE

WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME: AN INSIDE LOOK AT MY NEW VIRTUAL COURSE

Before you ever Google something, there’s usually a reason, right?

Something feels off. Something isn’t working. Something hurts. Or maybe you’re looking for an answer to a question you can’t quite put your finger on.

But what about when you start Googling how you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, or how to make it stop?

I spent four years researching how to fix this because I had spent too many years creating the signs and symptoms I was desperately trying to get rid of – through habits and patterns that, over time, completely burned me out.

And I know I’m not the only one.

Maybe you’re researching how to feel better, but you don’t even know where to start. Maybe you’re tired, overwhelmed, misunderstood, or frustrated that your body keeps reacting in ways you don’t understand.

That’s why WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME was created.

I had to stop looking at myself and asking, “What is wrong with me?” and start asking, “Okay, maybe I played a part in creating this – but where do I go from here?”

I didn’t want to feel exhausted. I didn’t want to feel depressed or disconnected from myself. I didn’t want to keep reacting to my body breaking down or constantly feeling like I was trying to catch up.

The research I did wasn’t something I already knew how to do. It came from one simple question: Why can’t I get better?

That question led me to understanding the nervous system, the lymphatic system, and – most importantly- how to recognize what my body was telling me and give it what it needed in that moment.

And that’s what this course is really about.

Not just knowing what to do, but learning how to recognize what’s happening in your body so you can actually respond to it.

Because here’s what I’ve learned: things start getting better, we feel good, and then we back off. Life gets busy. Old habits creep back in. Something feels hard again – and suddenly we don’t know how to get ourselves back to where we were.

I want to walk through that with you.

We’ll talk about recognizing patterns, understanding your body, taking the habits you need and weaving them into the life you’re already living, and learning how to support yourself through the hard days without creating another giant list of things you have to do.

Because healing isn’t a 30-day challenge. It’s a skill you get to keep.

And that is what I want you to walk away from WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME with: not another list of things to try, but a deeper understanding of your own body and the confidence to know what to do when things get hard again.

You’ve spent enough time trying to figure out what’s wrong. Let’s learn how to recognize what your body is asking for – and finally know what to do with it.

JOIN THE WAITLIST

Want in before everyone else? Get on the list and be the first to know when What Broke Me, Built Me officially drops. I can’t wait to share this one with you.

MY CORTISOL-CONTROL SECRET WEAPON

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We’ve been taught that cortisol is the bad guy… but what if we’ve been looking at it all wrong?

For so long, the conversation has been about lowering cortisol, reducing cortisol, getting cortisol “under control.”And yes, chronically elevated or poorly timed cortisol can be a problem – but cortisol itself isn’t something your body is trying to fight.

You actually need it.

Cortisol helps you wake up in the morning, plays a role in regulating blood sugar and energy, and helps your body respond when life asks more of you. It’s part of a healthy, functioning stress-response system.

The goal isn’t to have no cortisol. It’s to support the natural rhythm your body was designed to have – higher in the morning when you need to wake up and get moving, then gradually lower as your body prepares to rest at night.

And this is the part I really want you to hear: supporting that rhythm doesn’t have to mean completely overhauling your life.

Sometimes it’s looking at the little things you’re already doing every day – your morning coffee, when you see daylight, what your evenings look like – and asking, “Is this working with my body… or against it?”

ENTER THE CHAT: LUMEBOX

I bought my LUMEBOX with my own money years ago – and after actually using it, testing it, and finding the ways it fits into my life, it has become one of those things I genuinely don’t want to be without.

It comes with me on every. single. trip.

Why? Travel can throw off all the cues my body is used to. If I’m in California, for example, 8 AM at home is 6 AM there – and it can still be dark when my body is ready to start the day. Having my LUMEBOX with me gives me a consistent light-based ritual even when my environment and schedule have changed.

But travel is only one way I use it. At this point, I reach for it for SO many things:

  • Morning + travel routines when my usual light cues are different
  • My nighttime wind-down when I’m trying to step away from bright lights and screens
  • Alongside meditation to set the tone and help me slow things down
  • Beside my ear as part of the routine I use when I’m focusing on calming and nervous-system support
  • Over my gut when my stomach feels off or when nervousness shows up there
  • On different areas of my body when something feels sore, achy, or just off
  • Anytime I need a little mood reset and want to create a calmer environment

I’m never going to tell you there’s one magic thing that fixes everything – that’s not how our bodies work. But my LUMEBOX has become one of those tools I reach for again and again because it’s simple, it fits into my life, and I genuinely notice the difference in how I feel when I use it.

SHOP LUMEBOX RED LIGHT

USE CODE JOCELYNM TO SAVE $260 AT CHECKOUT.

If you’ve been thinking about getting a LUMEBOX of your own, I’d be so grateful if you chose to shop through my link. It directly supports me, my family, and the work I get to share with you here – and truly, that means more to me than you know.

WHAT MAKES THESE BRUSHES SPECIAL?!

When I say I was picky about this set… I mean PICKY.

I tested so many brushes – other brands, different shapes, and brushes from across the entire Sigma lineup – because I didn’t want to put my name on a set just because the brushes looked good together. I wanted every single one to have a purpose.

My biggest thing? They needed to work for different eyes. Deep-set eyes, hooded eyes, mature or more textured lids, younger eyes – because we do NOT all have the same eye shape or skin.

These three made the cut because they work beautifully together. Whether you’re doing a simple two-shadow eye or building something with multiple shades, you can use them together to place, build, blend, and soften without needing 10 different brushes to get there.

And can we talk about softness? If you have sensitive eyes, you KNOW how much this matters. Some eye brushes are just too rough. These feel incredibly soft and gentle around the eye, which was a non-negotiable for me.

AND THEN THERE'S THE PRIMER...

knew I wanted the Sigma eyeshadow primer in this bundle because it’s genuinely the best one I’ve used –  and trust me, I’ve tried a LOT.

I chose this very specific shade for a reason. That little hint of pink can help visually neutralize the look of discoloration and veins, giving you a more even-looking base before you ever pick up your shadow. I’ll even use a little under the eyes when I want some extra color correction.

Then it gives your shadow a smooth base and helps everything stay in place.

WE'RE ALL ABOUT KEEPING MAKEUP SIMPLE OVER HERE...

Which is why I’m sharing a quick eyeshadow look that’s simple, flattering, and easy to recreate!

I’m using some of my favorite SEINT shades & my SIGMA brush set of course.

YOUR QUICK EYESHADOW LOOK

Watch this easy-peasy tutorial over on my Youtube channel.

You Didn’t Think I’d Leave Without a Giveaway Did You…

Y’all know my email subscribers get special perks over here.. which is why this week you will be entered into a GIVEAWAY when you comment on this blog post!

Comment ‘whether prefer a natural makeup look or you like to go full glam ’ to enter!

THE KEY TO COLOR CORRECTION & AN INSIDE LOOK AT MY NEW COURSE

WHAT'S INSIDE THE BLOG

WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME: AN INSIDE LOOK AT MY NEW VIRTUAL COURSE

Before you ever Google something, there’s usually a reason, right?

Something feels off. Something isn’t working. Something hurts. Or maybe you’re looking for an answer to a question you can’t quite put your finger on.

But what about when you start Googling how you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, or how to make it stop?

I spent four years researching how to fix this because I had spent too many years creating the signs and symptoms I was desperately trying to get rid of – through habits and patterns that, over time, completely burned me out.

And I know I’m not the only one.

Maybe you’re researching how to feel better, but you don’t even know where to start. Maybe you’re tired, overwhelmed, misunderstood, or frustrated that your body keeps reacting in ways you don’t understand.

That’s why WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME was created.

I had to stop looking at myself and asking, “What is wrong with me?” and start asking, “Okay, maybe I played a part in creating this – but where do I go from here?”

I didn’t want to feel exhausted. I didn’t want to feel depressed or disconnected from myself. I didn’t want to keep reacting to my body breaking down or constantly feeling like I was trying to catch up.

The research I did wasn’t something I already knew how to do. It came from one simple question: Why can’t I get better?

That question led me to understanding the nervous system, the lymphatic system, and – most importantly- how to recognize what my body was telling me and give it what it needed in that moment.

And that’s what this course is really about.

Not just knowing what to do, but learning how to recognize what’s happening in your body so you can actually respond to it.

Because here’s what I’ve learned: things start getting better, we feel good, and then we back off. Life gets busy. Old habits creep back in. Something feels hard again – and suddenly we don’t know how to get ourselves back to where we were.

I want to walk through that with you.

We’ll talk about recognizing patterns, understanding your body, taking the habits you need and weaving them into the life you’re already living, and learning how to support yourself through the hard days without creating another giant list of things you have to do.

Because healing isn’t a 30-day challenge. It’s a skill you get to keep.

And that is what I want you to walk away from WHAT BROKE ME, BUILT ME with: not another list of things to try, but a deeper understanding of your own body and the confidence to know what to do when things get hard again.

You’ve spent enough time trying to figure out what’s wrong. Let’s learn how to recognize what your body is asking for – and finally know what to do with it.

JOIN THE WAITLIST

Want in before everyone else? Get on the list and be the first to know when What Broke Me, Built Me officially drops. I can’t wait to share this one with you.

CHEAT SHEET TO COLOR CORRECTING

Orange? Green? Purple?

Who decided makeup needed a whole color wheel?! 

If color correcting has ever left you staring at a rainbow of concealers wondering “okay… but what am I actually supposed to do with these?” – you’re not alone. The good news? It doesn’t have to be complicated.

In this 5-part series, I’m breaking down color correcting in a way that actually makes sense, so you can understand what you’re seeing on the skin, why certain colors work, and how to choose the right shade for what you’re trying to correct.

We’ll cover everything from under-eye discolouration and learning to read the different tones you see on a face, to a deeper dive into shade ranges and how to choose the right corrector for your skin. Then we’ll get practical with “Pick a Spot & Balance It,” where we’ll look at how to target specific areas, followed by covering blemishes and acne without piling on product.

No more guessing, no more grabbing a random orange corrector because TikTok told you to. Just a simple, practical guide to understanding what your skin needs and how to balance it.

Part 1: Under-eye Discoloration

Under-eye discolouration can show up in so many different ways – lighter areas, darker areas, purple tones, or uneven pigmentation – and there isn’t a one-size-fits-all fix.

In Part 1, I’m breaking down how I use color theory to identify, balance, and personalize the right approach for your under-eyes. We’ll look at the color wheel, how different tones affect your color-correcting choices, and why finding the right shade for your skin matters. I’ll also walk you through how I approach everything from loss of pigment to darker and purple areas – without simply piling on more makeup.

Part 2: Reading Color on Faces

Before you can choose the right color corrector, you have to know what you’re actually seeing on the skin.

In Part 2, I’m breaking down how to read color on different faces and use the color wheel to figure out what tones may need to be balanced. I’ll walk you through five close-up examples, looking at everything from puffy, darker under-eyes to lighter areas beneath the eyes, and show you why the same color-correcting approach won’t work for everyone.

The goal? Learning to see the difference, understand what your skin is showing you, and make more intentional color choices instead of treating every face and every concern the same way.

Part 3: Shade Range Deep Dive

Not every shade carries color the same way – and that matters when you’re color correcting.

In Part 3, we’re taking a deeper dive into the shade range and looking at how pigmentation changes from the deepest complexions to the lightest shades. After working with more than 30,000 women, I’ve learned that while every face is completely different, the principles of understanding pigmentation and reading color stay the same.

Building on Parts 1 and 2, I’ll break down Seint’s pigment colors, gradient scales, and undertones to show how these details can influence a custom color match. The goal is to stop treating every complexion the same and start choosing colors based on what’s actually happening on your face.

Part 4: Pick a Spot and Balance It

Color correcting doesn’t mean covering your entire face with another layer of makeup. In this part, I’m showing you how to identify one specific area, figure out what tone is showing through, and choose the right color to balance it before adding your foundation or concealer.

It’s all about being intentional – using color theory to correct exactly what needs correcting instead of adding more product everywhere.

Part 5: Covering Blemishes & Acne

Blemishes don’t all need the same color correction.

In this part, I’m breaking down how to look at the color and tone of a blemish or acne before reaching for your makeup. We’ll talk about how to balance redness, discoloration, and uneven tones so you can neutralize what’s showing through without piling on layers of concealer.

The goal isn’t to hide your skin under more makeup – it’s to understand what you’re seeing, balance it with the right color, and create a more natural-looking finish.

GET A FRESH COLOR MATCH

IT STARTS WITHIN: The Nervous System-Lymphatic System Link No One Explains

IT STARTS WITHIN

The Nervous System-Lymphatic System Link No One Explains

Girlllll, its 2026! How are we there?

Where did 2025 go?

When you look back at 2025 what growth do you see?

Did you shine as bright as you wanted to?

Did you hit the business goals you set for yourself?

Did you focus on being more present and stick with it?

Did you see growth in ways you never expected?

Did you take the time to actually see and find the growth?

Take this time to look back on your pictures in every month, get rid of pics you don’t need and look back on the goodness you had.

The new year always brings us to new challenges we want to present to ourselves but it also leads us to seeing more online and only getting little bits of info that really seem awesome but because of how reels are making them NEED to be shorter, (because it has been shown that attention spans have decreased) because shorter means more people will watch more likely, but shorter also means vital info could be missed.

I don’t want you to miss that.

Lets make 2026 the year of learning.

The year to celebrate the body and giving it more.

Lets face it, if you can feed a pet, you can feed yourself better than you are. (Physically, spiritually and mentally)
I wanted this blog entry to be more like a beginner tool to more. The foundation to more. And that is the in depth guide to the nervous system and lymphatic system.

NERVOUS SYSTEM – THE BOSS MESSENGER – tells your body when to move to rest to be safe or not.
When the body feels “I’m safe, calm” it relaxes- If your body feels “watch out” or “RUN” it literally forces a running feeling no matter if you’re running or not.

LYMPHATIC SYSTEM – THE CLEAN UP CREW – PICKS UP THE TRASH (germs, waste, extra fluid) Helps keep it away so the body stays clean. This will help … Think of it as your own personal GARBAGE TRUCK … DRIVING AROUND YOUR BODY- doing all the dirty work.

SOOOOO… when one of these aren’t working right, the other one becomes affected. If one of them are affected how does it shut down your body?

They absolutely go hand in hand, and not in a vague “wellness” way, but in a very real physiological loop. The nervous system controls the rhythm that moves lymph. The lymphatic system has no pump and relies on, breathing patterns, muscle contraction and vessel tone.

The lymphatic system has no pump. It relies on:

• Breathing patterns
• Muscle contraction
• Vessel tone

All are regulated by the autonomic nervous system (ANS).

Parasympathetic (rest & digest) → lymph flows smoothly and the sympathetic (fight or flight) → lymph stagnates

If your nervous system is stuck in stress, your lymph literally slows down.

Lymph congestion feeds back into nervous system stress. When lymph isn’t moving well Inflammatory waste builds up, immune signaling increase, and toxins back up in the body since the body can’t regulate and restore like it needs to (that garbage truck just isn’t working right). Your brain reads this as internal danger, keeping the nervous system on high alert.

Stuck lymph = stuck stress = sympathetic system lights on

NOW THE VAGUS NERVE ENTERS THE CHAT

The vagus nerve is a shared highway. It regulates alongside the major lymphatic vessels, regulates immune response and influences the gut lymph. Stimulating the vagus nerve (slow breathing, gurgling, humming, gentle neck work) improves lymph movement and vice versa.

People with chronic stress, trauma history and well….Perfectionism get stuck here. They often have, tight neck, jaw, shoulders, heavy brow, shallow breathing and… you guessed it, SLUGGISH LYMPH DRAINAGE. This is the body bracing. Lymph and nerves both respond by slowing or constricting.

THIS IS EXACTLY WHY WE START THE MORNING LOW AND SLOW AND NOT TOO HOT TOO FAST. If you’re trying to rid your body of that inflammation, get the “garbage truck” moving right- we need to start specifically and this is the part I feel that social media does NOT bring enough attention to. People are trying to sell the look, the esthetics of the vibration plates or the special drinks and they are skipping this.

IF your body is overworked right now with anything like listed above. IF you go in too fast or massage too aggressively hot out the gates, then hard pressure, intense workouts, extreme cold (like cold plunges) can spike the nervous system which can temporarily worsen lymph congestion.

That’s why gentle, rhythmic, soothing things (i.e rocking, breath, vibration, light massage) works best — it calms nerves and moves lymph.

*You can’t fully support lymph flow without regulating the nervous system first. And you can’t calm the nervous system if inflammation and lymph congestion are unresolved. They are a two-way conversation, not separate systems.

First things first, lets focus on the lymphatic system AND have it impact the Nervous System at the same time, how are we going to do that?

When you’re trying to wake up the lymphatic system what should be the first thing you do?

Start here (most important step):
Deep diaphragmatic breathing

     • 5–10 slow breaths ( inhale 4 second- hold 2- exhale 6-8 seconds – repeat)
     • Inhale through your nose, letting your belly expand
     • Exhale fully through your mouth

This works because the lymphatic system has no pump like the heart — breathing is its
primary driver.

Then immediately add:

Light movement
     • Gentle walking
     • Rebounding (even just bouncing on your feet)
     • Arm swings or shoulder rolls (this is what you see me do online)
Think soft and rhythmic, not intense. Turn on slow moving music, piano, zen, think slow.

After that, things like dry brushing, gua sha, lymphatic massage, vibration plates, or cold exposure work much better.

We are seeing so much online, I wanted something that can help tie it all in together for you, to make it make sense, but also make sure you’re protecting your body first and foremost.

Social media is great but we’ve got to get it to a place that makes the most sense, without cutting out the details.

If your morning is feeling stagnant, your body is feeling off, try these things to wake the body up first thing- remember its as simple as 2-5 minutes to just put your body first. No timely
event needed to see the body change for the good.

Xoxo – Joce

The Thanksgiving Tree

The Thanksgiving Tree: Our Family Tradition

Its a busy time of year… but a simple time of year to find what we are most thankful for! The “Thankful Tree” is one of my favorite things for so many reasons. It reminds myself and my family of what we have to be grateful for, it brings an atmosphere of gratitude into the home as we lead into the holidays, and it allows us to see everyone’s growth throughout the years whether it be by what we were thankful for or through the handwriting over the years. I’m a sucker for these kinds of sentimental things and it warms my heart to revisit the memories when we put up the Thanksgiving Tree each year!

Why Do We Do It?

I want MEMORIES of gratitude.

I want the kids to think about it.

I want our family to kind of journal in a way.

It’s the perfect time if only but once a year to write down and reflect the little things.

So this is how it goes – you can do it in any way you’d like and if you make it a part of your family’s traditions this holiday season, let me know how it goes!

Over the years I’ve used lots of different materials to bring our Thanksgiving Tree to life; this tree I decorate with things for fall, but in a way they can stay up going into the full “Christmas Tree” season so I don’t have to take anything off. We just add to it after Thanksgiving passes with more decorations. Here are some of my favorites I’ve found others may like to create their own Thanksgiving Tree tradition:

Amazon Shopping List: Thankful Tree CLICK HERE

ShopMy Decor List: Thankful Tree CLICK HERE

LTK Decor List: Thankful Tree CLICK HERE

My Favorite Christmas Trees CLICK HERE TO SHOP

How I Packed for 10 Days in a Carry-On

How I Packed for 10 Days in a Carry-On

Packing Light, Traveling Smart

Planning a long trip with just a carry-on? I did it—and here’s exactly how.

1. Start in Your Closet

Pick the thinnest, most versatile items from your wardrobe—pieces you can layer or dress up/down. This way, you’ll pack less but wear more. Remember, when you travel there’s a good chance you’re going to go shopping there anyways, so packing using what you’ve got already is ideal.

2. Lay It Out, Then Cut It in Half

We always overpack. I laid out everything I thought I needed—then cut that pile in half. I didn’t miss a thing. Take into account the weather, environment, and planned activities of where you’re traveling to – is there anything you’ve grabbed that just doesn’t make sense? You’re probably overthinking and therefore, overpacking – take what you NEED first, add things in later once you’ve sorted out your essentials.

This was the carry-on I used for my 10 day trip to Spain & Greece – it fit everything I needed and I still had a bit of space at the end to bring back some goods from my travels! Here’s the link to shop: Click to Shop My Luggage

3. Choose Favorites First

Start with your 3 favorite outfits. Everything else you pack should work around those. If it doesn’t mix and match at least two ways, skip it. Need outfit inspo? Pinterest is a great place to figure out easy outfits to put together!

4. Shoes: Stick to Three

   •    Sneakers (for walking)

   •    Slides (casual)

   •    Wedges or dressy sandals (for dinners)

Three pairs of shoes I take with me on vacation include slides for casual wear, sandals or dressy shoes, and a pair of sneakers for exploring

Prioritize comfort—especially on cobblestones and long travel days.

5. My Packing Method

I tried rolling clothes but found laying them flat saved more space. Here’s what worked best:

   •    I folded all tops in half and placed them in a garment bag, which kept them smooth and organized.

   •    After placing the garment bag into the suitcase, I built up around the sides and ends with what didn’t fit in it:

   •    A cardigan

   •    Pajamas

   •    A few bras

How to pack for 10 days in a carry-on only using packing cubes

This layering method kept my suitcase compact and wrinkle-free. I also used a couple packing cubes to stay organized – 1 for clothing and a smaller one to secure my quart-size ziploc bag carrying my skincare. I packed items around the cubes once they were in my carry-on! Here’s the link to the packing cubes I used: https://rstyle.me/+yfWD2Vrxc3yIp-xz40jRYA

 

6. Other Packing Hacks

Here are some more hacks I used when configuring how to pack for 10 days in a carry-on only:

    •    Socks laid flat—not rolled

    •    Underwear and small items stuffed inside shoes

    •    Shoes in grocery bags (not bulky organizers)

    •    Skincare and haircare decanted into the tiniest containers

    •    Ziplock bag instead of a makeup bag

    •    Only one hair tool (I left the blow dryer at home)

There were a couple of glass bottles I found on Amazon for my skincare/haircare – I’ve got them all linked in my Amazon Essentials storefront right here for you to check out:  Jocelyn’s Amazon Travel Essentials Storefront

Those little clear containers were PERFECT for my moisturizers and eye cream – truly couldn’t have made my skincare work without all these little guys! They’re also linked above in my storefront.

7. What I Actually Packed

    •    3 lightweight dresses

    •    1 pair of shorts

    •    1 pair of linen pants

    •    1 pair of jeans (worn on the plane)

    •    5 thin tops (mostly tanks)

    •    2 cardigans

    •    1 denim jacket (worn on the plane)

    •    1 sweatshirt (worn on the plane)

    •    Pajamas

    •    Undergarments

 

One more thing I included in my carry on was an empty backpack – this was because I knew I’d be on the go throughout the day and might need to take some essentials with me, but I didn’t need something as big as my backpack I wore on the way to my destination. It layed flat in my suitcase and worked out perfect!

I bring a backpack for all the things I NEED to have on me (leggings & a tank for one easy outfit in case something happens even with my carry on). I included my makeup and 1 bag for liquids in my backpack along with my camera, medicines, sunglasses, and anything extra I felt I needed.

Here’s the backpack I used and I recommend by CALPAK for traveling: https://rstyle.me/+jMZlvaEuPst8sBlvw8pMwg

8. Laundry & Outfit Repeating

I wore the same outfit for travel days and asked hotels to wash what I wore most. This saved space and kept things fresh.

Packing for 10 days in a carry-on isn’t just possible—it’s freeing. Less stuff means less stress. With a little planning and a few smart swaps, you’ll be ready for wherever the breeze takes you.

Outfit Inspo

Here are a few of the outfits I wore while on my trip in Greece & Spain for 10 days! Maybe these can give you some ideas or you might see something you’d like to add to your own closet for the next trip.